You’re Too Emotional…
Have you ever been told you should improve something about yourself based upon how others view you?
I remember being in my early 20’s and at a shopping mall with my parents while vising them in Florida. We were shopping for something or maybe nothing. I can’t exactly remember. What I do remember clearly, though, is my mom telling me that "I was too emotional." It wasn't the first time my parents had said something like that, and it left me feeling as though I was somehow flawed. I couldn't fully comprehend their words, and it made me believe that there was something wrong with me or that I didn't quite fit in. Back 20ish years ago Emotional Intelligence and EQ weren’t really talked about. I also don’t remember my parents acknowledging their emotions to understand them.
If you've ever experienced being told that you're either too emotional or not emotional enough, I want you to know that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Each of us is created as a unique individual, and there isn't a single person on this earth who is the same as another. This includes how we feel and express our emotions. Embrace your uniqueness and be true to yourself. You are perfect just the way you are.
If you've ever experienced being told that you're either too emotional or not emotional enough, I want you to know that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Each of us is created as a unique individual, and there isn't a single person on this earth who is exactly the same as another. This includes how we feel and express our emotions. Embrace your uniqueness and be true to yourself. You are perfect just the way you are.
3 things to do when you feel misunderstood…
1) Pause. Avoid rushing into action or immediate responses. As humans, we often tend to take things personally and might feel offended by someone's words. It's essential to give yourself time to assess the situation, consider the individuals involved, and reflect on your emotions. You might find it helpful to record your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Remember, feeling offended or hurt by someone's perception or judgment of you doesn't necessarily mean they intended to hurt you.
2) Decide. Now that you have the information, it's up to you to determine how to handle it. Consider whether this information aligns with the areas of personal growth you have identified. Assess if the information was unexpected or if you have the mental capacity to process and act upon it.
3) Carry on. If you agree with the comments and find them valuable, plan the necessary steps to address them. However, if you disagree with the information or find it unhelpful, it's best to let it go and not take any action based on it. LET IT GO!
